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SHADY DEL KNIGHT, ADMINISTRATOR

SHADY DEL KNIGHT, ADMINISTRATOR
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"More than a place, the Shady Dell was and will forever remain a state of mind." - Shady Del Knight

"More than a place, the Shady Dell was and will forever remain a state of mind." - Shady Del Knight
HELLO STRANGER ... IT SEEMS LIKE A MIGHTY LONG TIME!

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Helen Ettline - Mother of All Dell Rats


 Shady Dell owner Helen Ettline 

 didn't have any children of her own. 

 In a way we were all her kids 

 and she was our mom. 
 Helen and John clearly loved kids. 

 Why else would they have put up with 

 the aggravation all those years? 

 The Ettlines believed in kids. 

 They enjoyed counseling and helping kids. 


 In observance of Mother's Day 

 I picked out a video that 

 I think Helen would enjoy. 

 Helen, this is for you. 






 Happy Mother's Day, Helen! 


 We love you and miss you! 


22 comments:

  1. Kathleen Mae SchneiderMay 11, 2014 at 3:54 AM

    This is a beautiful remembrance of Helen, Tom. She must have been a wonderful person for her life to have made such an impact on you and countless other Dell visitors.

    As John's wife, she had to have helped him make the Shady Dell into the warm, inviting place it was and added a mothering influence to the atmosphere. How wonderful to have had her there when teenagers needed that the most!

    I'm certain Helen would be pleased to know she played an important role in so many lives. What good she brought to the world! I know she would be touched that you still remember her with your tribute to her and the inclusion of Bobby Darin's song.

    Perhaps this poem about adoption could be applied to Helen, since you've chosen to honor her on Mother's Day:

    "Not flesh of my flesh
    Nor bone of my bone,
    But still miraculously my own.
    Never forget for a single minute,
    You didn't grow under my heart,
    But in it."
    --- Unknown




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    1. Hi, dear Kathleen!

      That poem, written by an unknown author, describes how all Dell rats feel about Helen. She was our mother at our home away from home. Helen did indeed add a mothering influence to the atmosphere. She lives in my memory, my heart and my soul.

      Thank you very much, dear friend Kathleen, for being the first to arrive at the Shady Dell and remember Helen on this special day of the year. Happy Mother's Day to you and to your dear mother, Margaret Schneider. I hope you are both feeling well and in good spirits. God bless you both!

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  2. Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers out there in blog land! Helen, the mother of all mothers to all dell kids (rats), was not only a mother figure but a friend, confidant and special order cook! Although she didn't have children of her own, she was considered a mother by many.

    Btw Shady, your song choice,"Beyond the Sea," was sweet, happy and cheerful just as I'm sure Helen was!

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    1. Hi, Toni! Thank you for being here today for Helen, dear friend! You made a good point. Helen was a mother figure, a friend and a confidant all rolled into one. In recent decades, too many biological mothers have tried to act like a best friend to their teenage children, forgetting that their primary responsibility is to be a parent. Helen proved that you don't have to abandon one role to play the other.

      I agree that Bobby Darin's "Beyond the Sea" fits Helen's personality quite well. I'm glad you enjoyed it. Thank you again, dear friend Toni, and Happy Mother's day to you, your mother and your daughter!

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  3. Thanks for the song, Shady. If I could, I'd hitch a ride to the Dell right now! Sounds like I missed out on a lot of fun.

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    1. Hi, Susie, and welcome to Shady Dell Music & Memories! I am thrilled to have you as a new follower.

      I have known you for a long time (days :) and that's why I can say with confidence that you would have made a fantastic Dell Rat. I'm sure you would have fit right in with the gang back then and I know you will fit in with my new gang of friends here at the online version of the Dell.

      Thank you very much for coming, dear Susie, and happy Mother's Day to you!

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  4. What a nice way to honor Helen and express what she meant to you and all Dell Rats. I agree with Katherine, above, that she would be so pleased to go what she meant in the lives of so many young people.

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    1. Hi, dear Jeanie! Thank you very much for expressing this today, dear friend. I often think about Helen and John and wonder what they'd think of our modern world. They were already a vanishing breed in the 1950s, 60s and 70s - always actively involved in the lives of children that were not even their own. I cherish my memories of them.

      Thank you again for being here today for Helen. Happy Mother's Day to you, Jeanie!

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  5. aw, what a sweet Mother's Day tribute to such a sweet lady. i always enjoy hearing about Helen, she seems like such a lovely person and has such a pretty smile. i would love to have known her.
    i was talking to a lady one time. she had never had children, but she didn't think that that kept her from understanding, relating to or dealing with kids. because she had never married or had children, she said that just made her feel like she had never really grown up was still a kid herself!
    Happy Mother's Day :)
    ~Abigail and Daisy

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    1. Hi, dear Abigail! Thank your very much for helping me pay tribute to Helen Ettline, the mother of all Dell rats, on this special day of the year. I wish you had known Helen. You would have liked her and vice versa. The lady you met - the one who never had children and felt like she never grew up and was still a kid herself - that describes me perfectly because I never had kids and my philosophy is "never grow up, never grow old."

      Thank you again for your visit and kind comment, dear friend Abigail! Give Daisy a pat on the head and a doggie treat for me, okay?

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  6. We were just kids in 1960, weren't we? Ah, but we knew well who Bobby Darin was, even then! 'Dream Lover' and 'Splish Splash' a year or two earlier. He was so smooth, and, I have to say 'Mack the Knife' is my favorite! You couldn't have picked a better song for Helen-'Beyond the Sea', and, I enjoyed your video. Bobby Darin's style was close to Sinatra and Martin, but, more appealing to the pop generation in the early 1960's.

    Oh...hi Shady! I didn't mean to go on and on about Mr. Darin,but he sends me back. I'll bet there are plenty of Dell Rats who adored Helen. Kids always know when they're in the company of an adult who loves and understands where they are coming from! She had to be a gracious lady with a high level of tolerance, and, a lover of music, french fries, and kids! She certainly is worthy of a Mother's Day acknowledgement!

    Happy Mother's Day Helen, from sDs (Dell Rat apprentice)! lol! ♫

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    1. Hi, same day Suzanne! Welcome welcome welcome! I'm glad you went on and on about Bobby Darin because I selected that video with Helen in mind and also because he was an A-list performer, a solid pro who ranked up there among the show biz elite with Sinatra and Dean Martin. It's just tragic that Bobby died so young. Can you believe he's been gone more than 40 years and was only age 37 when he died? Facts like those blow my mind because he still seems to be with us today, the mark of a major talent.

      Yessum, Helen was a lover of music, French fries and kids. Nicely put! I wish you would have known her because you are a lot like her.

      Thank you very much for celebrating with me today and happy Mother's Day to you, dear friend Suzanne!

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  7. What a lovely tribute to Helen. She certainly deserves to be remembered. I love and admire people who are patient and kind to children and teens.

    I'm sure she will smile at the song you chose for her and I'm sure you will meet her again beyond the sea.
    As a kid, I adored Bobby Darin. His songs were meaningful and he was full of talent. I have a recording of, 'Beyond the Sea,' by Celtic Women that is quite beautiful. I hope you will give it a listen if it's on youtube. God bless.

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    1. Hi, dear Belle! Thank you very much for coming down today to help me salute Helen on Mother's Day. I'll tell you this. There aren't many parents or other adults around today who possess the level of patience and tolerance exhibited year in and year out by Helen and John Ettline. Thanks for bringing up that point.

      I'm thrilled that you liked my musical guest, Bobby Darin. Listening to his records is one thing, but watching him perform live multiplies the excitement 100X. He was so poised and confident it's unbelievable. When you watch Bobby you are gazing at a star.

      I know the Celtic Women and have watched their TV specials on PBS. I love them and will definitely listen to their rendition of "Beyond the Sea."

      Thank you ever so much for your friendship and support, dear Belle. Happy Mother's Day to you, my sweet friend!

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  8. Hi dear Tom. You never fail to remember Helen and John on all these special occasions, and I admire you so much for keeping their memory alive - what a special couple they must have been. I'm sure they would have been thrilled to know that the wonderful Shady Dell and their memories live on through this very special blog if yours , dear Shady. I wish all the mums a very happy Mothers' Day. Over here, our special day was in March and in France it will be in a couple of weeks time. Strange! I loved the video and this was so appropriate for Helen today. A very touching post dear friend. Smooches.

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    1. Hallo hallo hallo, dear Thisisme! Either you are globetrotting thru a different time zone or awake very early in the morning in England. Good morning to you, dear friend, and thanks for coming!

      I have vowed to keep memories of John and Helen alive as long as I have this blog, and my goal is to continue operating the blog the rest of my life. I consider it an honor and a privilege considering all the Ettlines did for me and countless other youngsters.

      I realize this wasn't Mother's Day in England but I thought about you nevertheless. I hope all is well around your family and I thank you very much for joining the celebration for Helen.

      God bless you, dear Thisisme. Big hugs and SMOOCHES!

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  9. Lovely, wonderful, humble, remarkable Helen. I feel eternally grateful, my friend, that you've allowed me to get to know her through your wonderful tributes, and I somehow feel she is watching what you do with happiness.

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    1. Hi, Shelly! I appreciate what you expressed here, dear friend. I also wonder at times if some way, somehow, Helen and John can see my annual tributes and know how much they were loved by all the young Dell patrons. I think it would please them immensely to know that there is a new crop of honorary Dell rats, people all over the world who have come to know and love them.

      Thank you very much for coming by, dear friend Shelly. I hope your week is off to a great start and will only get better. Talk to you soon!

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  10. I'm sorry I'm late with this Mother's Day greeting, but I really wanted to say that Helen is the perfect example of the influence adults can have in young people's lives...even if they aren't related! Sometimes not being too close can help open the lines of communication and understanding that eludes a parent. How lucky all the Dell Rats were to have Helen. I'm betting she loved the wonderful tribute you gave her on this special day. Happy Mother's Day Helen and to all the Moms who played a big part in a child's life.

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    1. Hi, dear YaYa! Thank you very much for reporting in this evening. I totally agree with you. Sometimes people are too close to the forest to see the trees. Very often kids will open up and confide in an adult who is in no way related. In some cases, it leads to exploitation. In the case of the Ettlines, it led to guidance, encouragement, patience, tolerance and understanding.

      I will take this opportunity to say (state) that you are lucky to have such a wonderful mother and she is very lucky to have such a wonderful daughter.

      Thank you again, dear friend YaYa. Say "woof" to Eddy for me and I'll talk to you soon!

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  11. Hi Shady,
    This is such a sweet tribute to Helen, she seems like she was a sweet lady and treated everyone with such kindness. I also love this song, I've heard it before but did not know it was by Bobby Darin. Thank you for sharing as always :)
    Amia

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    1. Hi, dear Amia! Thank you very much for taking a look at my Mother's Day post for Helen. All of the Dell's teenage patrons felt close to Helen and considered her a second mother.

      Bobby Darin was versatile. He recorded some great rock 'n' roll records, pop and jazz standards and even folk songs. "Beyond the Sea" is probably my favorite Bobby Darin number simply because it fits into the big band category and features that sensational instrumental jam in the middle. I'm glad you enjoy it, too.

      Thank you again for your friendship and support, dear friend Amia. Now I'm on my way over to read your latest post. Enjoy the rest of your Thursday!

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