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SHADY DEL KNIGHT, ADMINISTRATOR

SHADY DEL KNIGHT, ADMINISTRATOR
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"More than a place, the Shady Dell was and will forever remain a state of mind." - Shady Del Knight

"More than a place, the Shady Dell was and will forever remain a state of mind." - Shady Del Knight
HELLO STRANGER ... IT SEEMS LIKE A MIGHTY LONG TIME!

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Remembering Helen


HELEN TROSTLE ETTLINE

PASSED AWAY FEBRUARY 25, 1984,

30 YEARS AGO TODAY.
The following song reminds me of a
very special person, the first lady
of the Shady Dell, Helen Ettline.




Unforgettable, Helen.

That's what you are!
 
We love you and miss you.

26 comments:

  1. People who are thought fondly of during their lifetimes have done something right. However, people who are deeply loved so many years after their passing are a wonderful example to us all of how to do life right. Helen certainly knew how to do it right, and I join with you in remembering this amazing woman today. Thank you, friend!

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    1. Hi, Shelly! Yes, it's been 30 years since we lost Helen. It was only two or three weeks later when I entered the Shady Dell for the last time and saw and spoke with John for the last time.

      I greatly appreciate this comment from you today, dear friend. Thank you for being here and helping me remember a great lady, the Dell's first lady, Helen Ettline.

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  2. I know you're missed, Helen. You lived a life with sincere and true meaning. I love that song.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Thank you for expressing this, dear Janie. Obviously Helen meant a lot to me and I will continue to pay tribute to her as long as I have this blog. I'm glad you like the timeless father-daughter duet "Unforgettable."

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    2. I always sing with Nat and Natalie on Unforgettable.

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    3. It's a classic, a great video concept and definitely a sing-along song. Thanks again, Janie!

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  3. i would love to have known Helen, she seems like a wonderful person. The song 'Unforgettable' fits so perfectly.

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    1. Thank you very much, Abigail. I wish you would have known this find lady. Helen Ettline and her husband John influenced my life and I will always remember them. Thank you again for coming, dear friend, and enjoy your Tuesday evening!

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  4. This is one of my favorite songs, especially when sung by Nat King Cole.

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    1. Hi, Ashton! The Coles' duet is a great one and perfect for an occasion like this, the 30th anniversary of Helen's death. I can't believe so much time has passed. Thank you very much for your visit and comment, dear friend Ashton!

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  5. Another lovely tribute to such a special lady Tom. Unforgettable is the truth! Hope you are having a great week so far friend!

    Emma x

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    1. Hi, Emma! It's so nice of you to be here as we observe the 30 year anniversary of Helen's death. I can still picture her vividly and hear her voice. My week just got a little better thanks to your kindness, dear friend!

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  6. What a beautiful song, Shady.

    I think most of us wonder who will remember, if anyone, that we had graced this earth for a time. Other than our children and close friends and relatives, who will stop on that day and remember the cokes I drew, the burgers I turned, the hands I shook, and the tears I wiped? Did I make a difference somewhere, to someone while I was here? Does that sound too selfish or vain?

    Well, I believe that Helen was a grand lady who focused on today...while she was here. Oh, I'm sure a little sigh of hope crossed her mind as she swept the floor of the Shady Dell and dusted the jukebox, that the young folks who crossed her threshold could/would see her perhaps as a second mom, and, or, a dear lady friend!

    Little did Helen know that she had YOU Shady, for the past 30 years! Enough said...have a wonderful evening! ♫

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    1. Dear Suzanne, your wonderful comment brought me to tears. You really summed it up so well. We all wonder if and how we'll be remembered after we depart this world. I don't think it's selfish or vain. It's human.

      Thank you very much for expressing all you did here, dear friend. I'm crying and I'm sure Helen is smiling. God bless!

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  7. How wonderful of you to give such a lovely tribute to Helen. I know she and John had no children of their own, but how they must have touched lives for good and etched their example and dedication to all the teens at the Dell. Your song choice is one of my favorites and I'm betting Helen is loving it too! Have a nice rest of this week Tom!

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    1. Hello, dear YaYa, and thank you for staying up late in Ohio to help me mark this occasion, the 30th anniversary of Helen's passing. You are absolutely right. Helen and John rolled out the red carpet for thousands of teenagers over a span of nearly half a century. They treated us like family, like their own children, and it made such an impression on me that I was compelled to blog about this extraordinary couple. Thank you again, dear friend YaYa, for your thoughtful comment and for being here for Helen this day.

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  8. Kathleen Mae SchneiderFebruary 26, 2014 at 6:24 AM

    Many people measure success by notoriety, a high-powered career or the accumulation of wealth in stocks and real estate.

    By contrast, Helen's life was successful through humility and unconditional love extended to others, not the spotlight. Many of her years providing guidance and caring never made front page headlines or the evening news. Instead, her acts of kindness live on in the hearts and lives of a bunch of once rambunctious teens.

    Teaching them to believe in their worth by showing respect and trust, and treating them with dignity - these were her riches, served up as sides to her burgers and milkshakes. They were not hoarded in a bank vault or stored in a portfolio, but bestowed upon her beloved Dell rats and even on those of us who never met her. They were the best investments!

    Our lives are brightened by Helen's example - the steady beacon of a life well lived and not dimmed by 30 years. Your faithfulness to her memory assures that the truest and longest-acting form of success that she achieved can become ours.

    Thank you for remembering and honoring such an authentic and wonderful human being. Her life was a gift that truly goes on giving!

    The following quote applies to Helen. It also speaks to you, Tom, because you knew and loved her, and continue to live by her example of success.

    "What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal." – Albert Pike

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    1. Hello, dear Kathleen! After reading these beautiful words of yours I am weeping once again. Thank you! Your generous comment tells me you understand what Helen and John were all about. They didn't blow their own horns and seek publicity. They quietly went about their business of operating the Dell, working with young people and changing lives. I never once heard Helen yell or scream. She was a very composed woman, patient, tolerant and forgiving.

      Thank you for getting who and what Helen was, dear friend, and for breaking free of your own responsibilities to come here today and share your wisdom with us. I hope all is well up your way and that you and Mother have a fine day. God bless, Kathleen!

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  9. What a perfect song to honor someone who has meant so much to you. I can't add much to all that has been said above about Helen. You are such a master of keeping memories alive and I can't help but think that Helen would feel very proud of the way you have honored her memory.

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    1. Oh, dear Jeanie, thank you so very much for expressing this! "Unforgettable" is a perfect song for such an occasion, isn't it? It is a privilege to be able, by means of this blog, to preserve and protect the memory of the incomparable mom and pop team that operated the Shady Dell all those years, Helen and John Ettline.

      Thank you again for your visit and generous comment, dear friend Jeanie, and enjoy the rest of your day and week!

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  10. Helen had a beautiful life. She had John. She had the love of all the sons and daughters of the dell. She also made a huge impact on one special "Dell Rat", Tom A., for that she will always be, "Unforgetable"!
    God Bless, Helen!
    Toni Deroche

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    1. Toni, that was a very nice comment from you, dear friend! We've been called Dell rats, the rat pack and the Rodentia Intelligentsia, but I think you're the first to call us "the sons and daughters of the Dell." I like it! You are so right, dear Toni. The Ettlines had a huge impact on me and I was inspired to create SDM&M in their honor. With the continued support of caring people like you, I will continue to tell their story and mine here on the blog.

      Thank you very much for a wonderful comment, dear friend Toni. Happy Wednesday to you and enjoy the rest of your week!

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  11. Is hard to be leave its been 30 years. With each passing day I realize how short life is and how short our time here is. I could live 10 life times and not have the impact on the world and peoples lives that our beloved Helen had. There would not have been a Dell if not for John and Helen. Tom we were so lucky and blessed to have spent time with such a great lady. Your Friend And A Dell Rat All Ways Greg

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    1. Hi, Greg! You are so right, good buddy. Life is short and precious and we all need to make every minute count. My last visit inside the Dell was 30 years ago just after Helen died. It seems like only yesterday. Sadly, the Dell was almost unrecognizable by that time. We can't bring Helen and John back. We can't bring back our other departed friends and we can't bring back the old dance hall. All we can do is keep moving forward, looking back once in a while to fondly remember the people the place and the times of our lives.

      Thank you very much for paying your respects to Helen today, Greg. Take care of yourself, my friend, and come back again soon!

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  12. a lovely tribute Shady! So nice to see you remembering her after all these years. And i hope she is glad for you running this blog and remembering her and the Dell

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    1. Thank you very much, Catherine! The 30 years since Helen's death went by fast as lightning. I can still hear her soft, friendly voice and see her gleaming smile and the twinkle in her eye. I miss her and I am proud to continue to honor her on the blog.

      Thank you again for your comment, dear friend Cat. Good night and have a wonderful Sunday!

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